I hate to sound cliché, but it’s true that going through a breakup is super hard, and we all go through it in such different ways. Some might get crazy or just be spontaneous and go out and about meet new people or so might get super sad and depressed and stay inside and binge watch movies and shows and not changing our clothes for a good bit of days until it’s time for us to go to work
We’ve all been through it. It’s life; I know I’ve been through it a great deal of times, but that’s how we grow as girls into women. We see our faults where we were wrong in the relationship, but also where we were at fault with our partner and stuff that we thought we liked about them and turns out we don’t like them at all so it’s just all about growing.
In this post, I want to share with you of ways how I personally overcame my breakups in the past and I’m not saying it’s gonna work for you, but I’m saying it worked for me and just good ideas to go off of we all go through pain and suffering differently until this day there is still some pain from my most serious relationship and I had a child with someone but we just learn to cope and move on even if we don’t want to so here are some tips and tricks on how I overcame breakups.
Ways to cope through Break-ups
I cut my hair (big chop)
I’ve cut my hair before, but this is the shortest I’ve ever cut it in my life. I cried the next day, of course, because I just wasn’t used to seeing my hair so short, but slowly, I learned to love it, which helped me love myself more and also reminded me of my inner beauty just as much as my outer beauty, and enhancing small details. My facial features are more prominent from the haircut, like my cheekbones are popping more because the shape of my face changed. Give me a new kind of attitude as well. I felt like I was re-branding myself all over again.
Find your happy place. Do things that make you happy.
For as long as I can remember, the gym or a bookshop has been my happy spot. A pleasant spot can be both a real location and an imagined one. Finding a place of refuge where you feel secure might help you reconnect with your identity. Relax and rediscover yourself while losing yourself in a good book or lying on the grass in your favorite hiding place to view the stars.
Say yes to every social invite
This had a big impact on my change of attitude because before, I didn’t really go to many social events. I would say I go to bars with friends every blue moon, but I’ve never had networking opportunities or gone to fun events with coworkers. Now that I am single and meeting new people through my new job, I have this awesome opportunity to do so, and it’s been the best experience of my life. Sometimes I revert back to my shell, but whenever I do these social outings with friends and coworkers, I’m able to break out and be my normal, happy self again.
Eat well and work out better.
If you thought I worked out a lot before, think again. When you’re in a muck, you have to work out 10 times harder. Because when you’re depressed or sad from a breakup, all you want to do is wallow and do nothing. If you’re like me, then you’re just so inside your head. That’s what I like about working out: you literally get pumps of energy into you afterward, as well as endorphins designed to make you feel better with high energy and an overall good mood. I have never worked out and felt stressed or sad after. It also goes with what you put in your body; if you don’t eat junk food or midnight ice cream but still treat your body like a temple, you’ll feel better in the end.
Surround yourself with good support—and lots of it
A positive support system is essential, whether it comes from your dog, friends, family, or even your child; having positivity around you will enrich your day more than you realize. Just make sure they’re not messy or easy to be a pessimist because it can impact your brain and your energy, and you’re already feeling low inside, so you need the opposite: you need to be around happy people who are fun but also have a great mindset so you can remind yourself that you are amazing and that the storm is only temporary.
Give yourself permission to feel your feelings.
You have to cry it out, ugly cry it out. If you have to let your feelings be raw, don’t hold them in; you need to let them all go or you will never truly heal. It is one of the stages of a breakup. It’s going to make you feel more clear in the head after you cry it out and get all the emotion out. You will be a more logical thinker. Getting into your feelings doesn’t just mean crying it out. There are other ways to be in tune with your feelings, such as journaling or simply going for a walk and listening to that little voice in your head and understanding that what has just happened happened for a reason. If you embrace your pain, you will be lighter and ready to take on life better.
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